Thursday, November 26, 2009
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Sunday, November 8, 2009
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Monday, November 2, 2009
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Tuesday, October 13, 2009
It's time for those wonderful Mint Cookies. Reegan is a Brownie this year so not only do we get to sell them we also get to EAT them...
How I LOVE those MINT COOKIES!!!!!
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Saturday, October 10, 2009
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Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Well she's off to preschool this year. So far she loves every minute of it... As soon as she leaves she asks me when she will be going back.
Your a big girl now Miss Larkyn!!!!
Posted by Wendy at 9:35 AM
Sunday, October 4, 2009
It wasn't too long ago when at this time of the year I really started to look forward to all the family events that would soon take place.
Before I married into my husbands family I wasn't used to having big family get togethers for birthdays and Holiday occasions. I remember thinking how wonderful it was to be around a family who certainly was not quite about there opinions but in fact seemed to keep there family closer by being open and honest about there thoughts and feeling, even if that meant a good family blow up at a diner or two.
I remember my sister commenting to me more then once on the phone that she thought it was silly that we spent all three days over Christmas with my husbands family. Over and over I told her how great it was. How we would stay up late after the kids had gone to bed and we would just talk and most defiantly laugh about the past, present and maybe whats in store for the future. I honestly and truly trusted being with my husbands family I really felt this was my family as well.
Fast forward 13 years. My husband and I are now in a place were those once looked forward occasions have for us anyway turned into a obligation. Leaving us with the feelings that if we don't attend we are showing his parents some sort of disrespect. That there will be some sort of consequence for not inviting all the family member's to our home if we have an event over the holidays. That we are the problem with the family get togethers. That the family members who have acted inappropriately are still warmly invented to these events and WE are frowned upon because we choose to not attend or not invite those family members who have hurt us.
This just didn't happen over night.. For us, we saw happen what we felt was the unthinkable.. We experienced family blatantly taking advantage of family, and it didn't happen once it happened more then that... and to make it worse we didn't see any remorse from them.. They seemed to feel that regardless of what happen, whether it was right or wrong .. All should be put aside for family events and one should just put on happy face and get together for the parents.
This is were I struggle... I have never been one to be two faced... I have never put on a smile and just gone along with it... Personally I don't feel it's being true to ones self and I don't think it sends a good message to your kids that it's OK to let people treat you in a bad way and then just act like all is OK for certain events. As a mom I teach my kids that there are consequences for bad behaviour, the hope being that they will learn by there mistakes and not make them again. So why is extended family any different? Why should family be allowed to take advantage, use and hurt one another and there be NO consequence for this.. I also try to teach my kids that family NEEDS to stick together. But does that always included extended family??? As Dr. Phil might say "At some point those person's have lost the privilege of being a part of your family" But does that apply here??
I am sick and tired of feeling like this.. We are not the bad guys. We simply helped when we could and when someone did something we felt was wrong we called them on it... Even if that meant not wanting to spend time with that person...
Tell me if you have ever been told this before... You come home one day from school and one of your friends has not been nice to you.. Your mom then tells you "A true friend would never treat a person like that and if they did a TRUE friend would feel very sorry and most likely ask what they could do to make it better!!! So I ask "Why should family be given a free pass from this message.
As I write this post I am so sadden that a family who I once trusted and deeply felt a part of has over time hurt and left me with the feelings that when I am around them I need to be guarded and cautious about what I say in front of them... Constantly I ask myself why on earth would I want to put myself in the presence of people who can't truly care or respect me or my family when there actions have shown the total opposite.
As I stated at the beginning of this post.. This time of the year was once my favorite. Now our first holiday approaches I am left feeling very hurt, frustrated and angry and feel the best solution to this is to just focus on my family and not concern myself with extended family.
Posted by Wendy at 6:46 PM
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Since returning from China two years ago we have not always been able to keep in touch with all the family who travelled with us. We have made a point of keeping in touch with Larkyn's two China Sister's who are the same age and who grew up in the same orphanage, and in truth were the only family each other new before being adopted.
None of us live in the same province but we have all managed to keep in touch either by phone, skype or email.
In September Claudia, Simon and Madi came out west to visit us in Calgary. After visiting with us they were off to Burnaby to visit Rachel.
We had a wonderful visit. We took them to Heritage Park, and the girls had a blast. I truly hope these little girls will keep in touch for many years to come. They all have an amazing story that ended with each one of them finding there forever families...
Larkyn and Madi Playing in the leaves
Simon, Claudia and Madi waiting for there turn on the Ferris Wheel
Posted by Wendy at 7:00 PM
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Dear Kendal:Adding my link to the blog and facebook would be fine.
What a small world that you found my blog. Reegan can't wait to see her pictures!!!!
Enjoy Your Day
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Monday, September 21, 2009
One of Reegan's favorite stores is called Triple Flip. Twice a year the girls who purchase clothes from the store can enter there name into a draw and if they are one of the lucky 24, they get to be the next Flip girls for the next seasons clothing line. Just over a week ago I received an email that Reegan's name had been chosen... She was very excited... Three days later she was getting her hair and make-up done, getting reading for her big shoot. All 24 girls will be on there web site in a few weeks and some if not all the girls pictures will be in the store as display pictures... What a great moment for all the girls .. Triple Flip made them ALL feel so beautiful and special...
Posted by Wendy at 6:30 PM
I know it's been forever since I last posted... My sister will now be happy she's been sending me mean comments wanting to KNOW when I planned on updating my blog.
Our little peanut Miss Larkyn turned 3 this August. She still isn't sure what to think about the cake and candles but she's getting into opening her gifts...
Three year's old where does the time go... She's is such a wonderful little girl !!!!
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Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Saturday, July 11, 2009
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Thursday, July 9, 2009
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Thursday, July 2, 2009
This is Reegan's fourth year in dance. This year she decided to take Jazz instead of ballet. At the end of the year her dance studio has a big recital for all to attend... Reegan and the rest of her class did an amazing job on stage.
No to be out done by his sister Ryker decide to show a few of his moves!!!
Posted by Wendy at 7:34 PM